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RELATIONSHIP THERAPY IN SAN JOSE, CA
You show up for everyone. It’s okay to want to be met, too.
Somatic, attachment-aware therapy for individuals who care deeply, give generously, and still feel unseen, anxious, or alone in their relationships.
You don’t need a partner in the room. Change can begin with you.
In person in San Jose
Online across California
Individual therapy
Patterns You Might Notice
Different relationships, same familiar feeling.
Over-giving
You offer more than you receive, then feel drained or resentful.
Needing reassurance
A delayed text can send your whole system into alarm.
Pulling away
Closeness feels good, then suddenly like too much.
Avoiding conflict
You’d rather keep the peace than say what you need.
Guilt around boundaries
Knowing your worth doesn’t make saying no feel comfortable.
Feeling unseen
Surrounded by people, yet carrying it all alone.
Relationships Start in the Nervous System
Long before you chose how to relate, your body learned what closeness feels like.
Early experiences taught your nervous system when to reach, when to brace, and when to go quiet. Those responses once kept you safe, and they often show up in the people and places that matter most.
Insight helps, but it doesn’t always change what your body does in the moment. Somatic therapy works with both.
Four Ways Connection Can Get Complicated
Reaching
You seek closeness and reassurance, and worry when it isn’t there.
Withdrawing
You value independence and pull back when things feel intense.
Pulling both ways
You want closeness and fear it, at the same time.
Steady
You can connect, need space, and repair, without losing yourself.
These aren’t labels or diagnoses. Most of us move between them depending on who we’re with.
Relationships Beyond Romance
The patterns show up everywhere you connect.
Family
Expectations, roles, and the guilt of changing them.
Friendships
Being the one who always holds it together.
Work
Boundaries with bosses, teams, and clients.
Dating
Choosing, trusting, and letting someone in.
A boundary isn’t a wall. It’s how closeness stays safe.
Boundaries.
Boundaries Can Feel Wrong Before They Feel Right
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You can say no and feel the discomfort without taking it back.
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You can let someone be disappointed without rushing to fix it.
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You can stay connected to yourself while staying connected to them.
How We Work Together
We work with the body and the story, at a pace that feels safe.
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Notice
We track where the pattern shows up in your body.
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Understand
We explore where it began, with curiosity, not blame.
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Practice
You try new ways of responding in session.
What Can Change
Not a perfect relationship. A more secure you.
Asking for what you need
Without apologizing for having needs.
Tolerating disappointment
Yours and theirs, without panic.
Trust without losing yourself
Closeness that doesn’t cost you you.
Repairing after conflict
Coming back to each other, not shutting down.
Resting in closeness
Letting connection feel safe, not scary.
Choosing people who meet you
Mutual, not one-sided.
Connection Looks Different for Everyone.
Partners, friends, family, chosen family. Every kind of relationship is welcome here.
Is Relationship Therapy With Me Right for You?
This may be a good fit if
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You’re navigating dating, marriage, separation, or family relationships on your own.
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Your patterns repeat, even when you know better.
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You want to build more secure connection, at your own pace.
When another approach may help
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You want to work with your partner together. Couples or family therapy may fit better elsewhere.
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You need urgent support. Call 911, or call or text 988 for a mental health crisis.
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Past trauma is your main concern. See trauma therapy.
If anxiety is your main concern, see anxiety therapy.
What to Know Before You Start
$275
per session
50 min
typically weekly
San Jose
in person
California
online
Getting started
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Consultation. We talk about what’s happening in your relationships.
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Intake session. We explore your history and goals.
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Weekly sessions. We practice new ways of relating, at your pace.
Relationship therapy is offered through individual therapy.
Frequently Asked Questions
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When worry and overthinking run the show.
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When patterns keep showing up in how you connect.
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Trauma Therapy
When your body still carries what happened.
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Between-Session Support
